I am hard wired to contemplate. I hear the truth of a matter and sit with it for awhile. If it hits the mark I usually will act on it. I don't react well in the moment though. I often take things quietly and usually this is a strength, but sometimes it is not to my advantage. I am learning to trust my gut more and am trying to respond to situations when they happen. I think confidence has a lot to do with this. Bipolar disorder really affected my self concept for a long time now, and my confidence is still low. But I am getting better and as I encounter more situations while stable, and react well, the better I feel about myself.
The harshest truth about being by bipolar is that it will affect your judgment. I don't make good decisions when manic for obvious reasons. When I am manic I quickly escalate to psychosis then all reason leaves the building. When I am depressed my judgement is clouded. I am living in a fog and it often takes others to point out the things I am missing. I often have made decisions from a fatalistic point of view when depressed and don't see the whole picture. So, in a big way I rely on those who support me to point out realities that I am just not seeing when I am in a funk.
Now that I am stable it is becoming evident to me that I need to work on some truths in my life. I have been divorced for 15 years now and have largely been on my own. So my habits and quirkiness are not recognized or modified by a significant other. This was pointed out to me recently and I thought about it quite a bit. Bipolar disorder has been so dominant in the last 20 years that I have isolated for long periods of time and therefore have not been social. I have gone missing from the game for long stretches of time. This has robbed me of the opportunities to grow from experiences with another. Iron sharpens iron, and I am starting to desire that dynamic in my life.
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So, as much as it hurts to admit it, the truth is bipolar disorder really has impacted my relationships, self concept and thrown a wrench in my progress as a person. This is why I crave stability and the truth. It is my belief that is only when I am stable do I have the ability to hear the truth, assess it and use it to move forward. The longer the period of stability the more progress I make. Isn't progress the goal? Ultimately I want to become a better person, learn from my mistakes and grow despite being bipolar!
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